Coping with Xmas stress

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December 13, 2016 12:00 AM

How to deal with life when it gets frantic

The holidays are a time of celebration and cheer, but can also be a time of stress and anxiety for many.
Hosting get-togethers, cooking big meals, finding the perfect gifts, and trying to make everything go smoothly all the while is enough to cause some an urge to pull their hair out at the roots.
Charles G. Hanna, Canadian CEO, philanthropist and author of the new book, Higher: Awaken to a More Fulfilling Life, uses his firsthand experience and understanding of human nature, neuroscience, and life management, to suggest some practical and achievable techniques, tips and tools so that everyone can find holiday cheer this year.
“In my book I talk a lot about the concept of deception disorder that all of us kind of suffer from to varying degrees, and what that is, is we tend to look at life from our perspective, from a very self-centred perspective and we evaluate everything by whether it’s good or bad for me,” he told the Source.
“You own a lot of responsibilities, and you have a lot of fears and expectations and anxieties and so on, that interfere with your enjoyment of life and a lot of times it becomes excessive during the holiday season.”
Hannah suggests looking at situation from what he calls the higher state, which means to look at life from a higher perspective and consider one’s self as part of something larger.
He recommends people disconnect and look at themselves almost as somebody they’re taking care of, because when one does that, Hannah said, they find everything is working out, not because of them or in spite of them, and they become grateful being part of the experience, instead of trying to control it.
This need for control is often caused by taking on too many responsibilities, such as hosting and cooking and making sure guests are attended to, which is fine, but when taking on too much, people become part of the crew instead of part of the party, stopping them from enjoying the event for what it really is.
“Don’t project into the past or the future; people get overcome by past memories or worry about what will happen; instead what you should do is plan for it, but don’t try control the outcome, don’t have an expectation of the outcome and allow other people mistakes,” he said.
“Listen to them, but don’t judge and preach and so on, and don’t set yourself with high responsibility and expectations, people stress about what gifts I’m going to do and how much I’m going to cook and who can I invite and where am I going to go— it’s way too much.”
Over all, Hannah’s message is to enjoy the moment for what it is, adding it can be nice when things are a bit unpredictable and what’s going to happen next has a bit of mystery when things aren’t over planned.
“Sit back and marvel at how blessed we are to be together and especially your own blessing when you realize you’re in a good place, and then allow other people the space for mistakes and you don’t have to take offence to it and try to change it or any of that; just relax and enjoy the ride,” he said.

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